My name is Mistress Violet (aka Dr. Valentina) and I am a professional dominatrix. Welcome!
For as long as I can remember, I have been an unapologetically sensual and creative person. I believe our sexuality should be celebrated; I embrace the art of domination as an explorative and expressive modality, tapping into our deepest cravings and desires.
I am dedicated to creating a safe mental, physical, and emotional space for you to share and explore your kink within a power exchange dynamic. It would be my honor, and my pleasure, to be your guide.
Communication and enthusiastic consent are central to my practice. I offer this to you with authenticity, and expect the same in return.
Exploring the BDSM universe and the art of Fem Dom is both a personal and professional passion. I approach domination as equal parts intellectual pursuit and creative outlet. I believe that BDSM can be a safe space for ALL individuals to explore their sexuality. My greatest turn-on is being granted access to your vulnerability and your desires, and blending them with my own kinks for a uniquely exhilarating experience.
As my exploration of Fem Dom continues, I have found I am most drawn to the use of "soft" power to manipulate and dominate. Our world is full of leaders who attempt to force our submission via brute strength and abrasive loudness. Their efforts are misguided- we are left feeling burnt out, submitting only out of sheer exhaustion. There is no art in that approach, nor is there dignity or true elevation of the Domme. Instead, I am empowered by embracing my feminine desires, using my presence and physical being to coax a deep submission and willingness to serve from my submissive pets. Thus, my primary style is that of a playful, seductive, and teasing Goddess. Alternatively, I have experience and expertise in medical and science themed play, including sounding, needle play, and CBT (more on this below). I enjoy collaborating with clients, adapting my style of play to be more authoritative and sadistic to elicit the deepest response from those drawn to such. However, it should be noted that I am selective, and I only accept clients with whom I am able to remain in my own authenticity. That is, after all, what this is all about. I enjoy working with men, women, couples, and everyone in between. I welcome complete newbies and seasoned scene veterans, and tailor my practice accordingly.
I enthusiastically welcome individuals of all sexual and gender identities.
After a brief stint in art school contemplating life as a painter, I shifted focus to my other academic love- the sciences. I studied Biology and Psychology before continuing on to medical school to complete my MD. My Doctorate degree has provided me with a particularly deep understanding of anatomy, physiology, and psychology, which adds a unique angle to my domination practice, and allows me to safely incorporate medical play.
During my years as a physician I learned to communicate and empathize with individuals from all walks of life; to get to the core of their fears and desires. While I thrived for more than a decade in the intensity of the medical field, my creativity was stifled and I knew my path had to change. Throughout this time I explored BDSM as a passion project, leading me to a deeper understanding of myself, of the human condition, and, of course, more kinky fun than I could have imagined. Unifying my talents and interests was a natural next step.
My primary interest is learning what makes you tick. I find human sexuality fascinating in all of its many expressions. My primary areas of interest/expertise are as follows:
I am not intimidated by learning something new; I enjoy the process of deep dive research and will happily provide this if your kink is not on my short list, with a few exceptions. I do not engage in scat play, ABDL. I do not offer any illegal services or sexual contact.
If you are interested in a session the first step is to complete contact form below. Please allow up to 48 hours for a response. We will discuss your request and some basic logistics, and I will answer any questions you may have. Most of the detailed discussion will occur during our live consultation. Please be considerate of my time when
If you are interested in a session the first step is to complete contact form below. Please allow up to 48 hours for a response. We will discuss your request and some basic logistics, and I will answer any questions you may have. Most of the detailed discussion will occur during our live consultation. Please be considerate of my time when conversing by email.
Before your first session you must provide a reference, as well as links to your and your reference's social media accounts. This information is required only for identity verification and is not saved or used for any other purpose.
Importantly, please note that I ONLY accept clients who demonstrate appropriate respect for the art of domination. I DO NOT under any circumstance perform illegal activities. Such requests will be ignored.
The in-person consultation is required to get to know each other and take a deeper dive into your kink, safety, and logistics. The consultation will take place at a mutually agreed upon public location, and will be discrete.
A tribute is required for this consultation, and serves as compensation for my time and preparation. For consultati
The in-person consultation is required to get to know each other and take a deeper dive into your kink, safety, and logistics. The consultation will take place at a mutually agreed upon public location, and will be discrete.
A tribute is required for this consultation, and serves as compensation for my time and preparation. For consultations requiring less than 20 miles of travel the fee is $40. For travel greater than 20 miles (or for virtual consultations, if in-person is absolutely not possible) a $50 tribute is required. All tributes must be paid prior to the consultation.
If you must cancel and provide greater than 24 hours notice, the tribute may be applied to a future consultation.
Once the preliminary steps have been completed we will schedule the session, which will take place at a hotel of my choosing. Sessions begin at $300/hr, which includes the cost of the hotel. A deposit of $100 is required at least 1 week prior to the session in order to secure the hotel room. The additional cost must be paid in cash at the
Once the preliminary steps have been completed we will schedule the session, which will take place at a hotel of my choosing. Sessions begin at $300/hr, which includes the cost of the hotel. A deposit of $100 is required at least 1 week prior to the session in order to secure the hotel room. The additional cost must be paid in cash at the time of the session. The deposit is not refundable for same day cancellations or no-shows. If greater than 24 hours notice is given, the deposit may be applied to a different date/time.
Subsequent sessions will be arranged by email. An additional tribute is not necessary, but the hotel deposit 7 days prior to the session is required.